"I FEEL UGLY!"
I've written this, with a 1cm dark spot from a mosquito bite on my face. My brothers wedding is coming up and I find it rather funny that I have it on my normally clear skin just in time to make its debut. What to do...s#it happens! not to mention recently I went to a garden wedding wearing a bb cream that looked grey in natural light because I refused to don foundation (heat, melting etc). My only regret is that I allowed it to make me feel miserable...I chucked that bb cream ofcourse. Point is we can choose happiness, but instead, we place our flaws under our internal microscopes.
Here are your underestimated miracles! 10 Things to banish that "I feel ugly!" rut:
Thing 1: Rewire!
(Lame? Psyching yourself works! Your mind is a bloody powerful tool, Harness it! ...Think! Question! Research! Test!)
*We have to rewire, how we see ourselves, others and the comparisons we draw. We need to think for ourselves and not simply accept what we are told.
What is perfection anyway?
Caucasian people want to be tanned, Indians want to be Caucasian, Africans sport weaves, few are ever happy with what they have! Media and the Beauty Industries spin billions on our insecurities...promising the impossible! (those regret purchases...Ouch!)...and not to mention the endless stream of Kim K wannabes going from contouring their face to contouring other unmentionables.
Who knows perfection better than Allah (SWT)? how boring this world would be if we all looked the same. We are told repeatedly the oval face is the perfect face shape! As a makeup artist I was taught to change face shapes to oval using contouring and highlighting techniques, I put up a huge fuss about that! I have an oval face...I love it because my Creator gave it to me..but I also marvel at the face shapes others have been given, it suits them amazingly and I praise Allah! Be Your Personal Best!
*Know the difference between being your best and conforming to "a standard" of what the best is!
Imperfections?.. they are a gift often disguised as a curse, that push you in directions you would not otherwise have gone. Swop "imperfect" for "outstanding"...Standing Out always drives people nuts..but they can't be ignored. People who are outstanding are intriguing! (without being loud attention seekers)
Thing 2: Makeup Fast!
Does your confidence go down the drain as you wash off your makeup? Then you need to put those strobing, contouring and infinite eyeshadow products down and back away from those beauty blenders or anything you put on will be held against you in your thoughts and feelings!
I know how you feel, I have felt the same! I always feel great when I'm put together. You can love yourself without the makeup, and remember that the most amazing people have loved you before you learnt the art! Makeup emphasises the beauty you already possess...it does not create it!
*Go on a Makeup fast! its great for your skin. Have days where you do not wear a stitch of makeup. This sort of vulnerability that you expose yourself to changes you and will also teach you alot about how people react to you without all that product. You will be pleasantly surprised!
*You can look great with less makeup, none, or just applying the basic of a moisturiser, combing and shading brows (check out my next blog post), curling the lashes, under eye concealer and lip balm. Remember celebs have an entourage (cuz celebs are....yes....NOT PERFECT!) to ensure they look great on the red carpet, in movies etc...the fact that you can do that without one, speaks volumes! I'm not saying don't wear makeup...what I am saying is don't have confidence that only lasts as long as your makeup does, don't wash away your confidence when you take it off.
click on this link: Actresses without makeup
Remember! confident, kind and happy women will always be the prettiest in any room!